We all have a problem with the split between goodness and badness. We weren’t intended to be bad, but in many ways we are. We all long to be back in the Garden in a state of unbroken love with God and others. Coming to terms with badness involves great loss and struggle for us. Paul echoes this anguish in his cry, “For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do” (Romans 7:15). He understood that , even as Christians, we still sin, struggle, and fail. All the good intentions, commitment, and willpower in the world won’t change that reality. Resolving good-bad issues is something God never had to do in himself. He had no badness to contend with. However, he had to come up with solutions for his fallen human race. That’s what makes Christianity unique. We have a perfect God dying for a sinful people. Even more incredible, this sinful people doesn’t have to be good to be loved. We can be bad and still be loved, just as the prodigal son was (Luke 15:11-32). But many of us have learned that we are not loved when we are bad. Injuries as a result occur in four ways: 1. Perfectionism: others expecting us to have no faults. 2. Idealization: others denying our imperfections. 3. Shaming: others condemning our negative qualities. 4. Splitting: others seeing us as all-good or all-bad.
Therefore, there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. ~ Romans 8:1